Scared of actually being seen out there?

Posted by Trudy in Blog, Uncategorized | 7 comments

Are you Hiding??  Can we see you?  Can we hear you?


Oh Gawd…. This is one of my “specials”!!  

I have had my own business for over 4 years, and I only got a website in June of 2014 – WHY?  Because I was quite happy hiding and playing small.  I was quite happy that the people that found me (by word of mouth) were so happy to have found someone “that does what I do” – but it still didn’t click with me, that I needed to get out of my own way and open up to the possibility that others in the world needed me too.

NOW…. Are you doing the same thing?  

Have you got a website, but sit there wondering why clients aren’t finding you?  Are you worried about advertising because it all feels so icky, so you will just wait quietly, hoping it will happen eventually?  

If there is 1 thing that I have learned in the last year, it’s that this is my new favourite thing to help clients realise.  

Because when they realise that they are hiding/playing small, they start to see the potential of what is possible for themselves.  It is like a light switches on and a flame is ignited.  It is like the world opens up and you are at the centre of it (in a good way!).

You can suddenly see what you need to do…. THEN…. THEN… the fear and questions hit you….

Can I really do this?

Who is going to want this?

I feel like a fraud.

I don’t know how to move forward.

I am stuck.

I am overwhelmed……

BUT…. Now you know there is more out there; so you KNOW you are hiding; and you KNOW that you need to do something else; something different; change something – because:

“If nothing changes, then nothing changes”

What then?

When I got to this point at the beginning of  2014, it STILL took me 6 months to get a website out into the big-wide-world.  It still took me 3 months to sort out HOW to help people in a way that made sense to me AND to my potential clients – as my good friend says “Rome wasn’t built in a day”…. But to me that was utterly frustrating, because I wanted it all to happen YESTERDAY, not tomorrow – and the only thing in the way – WAS ME.  

I had to wake up each day and ask “do I want to hide today, or do I want to help people” – the answer was always to help people, but the wading-through-mud-feeling that I had to get through to know that I wasn’t hiding, was tortuous sometimes!  

Do you feel the same?

If you do, try this:

  1. STOP, LOOK, LISTEN (remember the old “Green Cross Code” – UK people!!).  Use a few minutes to really think about what you are wanting to create.  Sometimes being able to see yourself helping others is enough to move you forward with the baby steps.

  2. Say to yourself G.A.M.E. On – Goal, Action, Momentum, Energy – set the Goal, take the Action, gain the Momentum, feel the Energy – BOOM!

  3. Realise that if you keep doing what you are doing now, then you will stay where you are now… and if you want to move forward, then what do you need to do differently – DEEP HUH!!

I really hope that you are able to create 2015 with the VISION of PLAYING BIG and moving towards your goals!

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Comments (7)
  1. Kate says:

    “Do I want to help people” – great motivator for those times when we have self-doubt!

    • Trudy says:

      Exactly Kate – gets us out of our own heads and into being of service!

  2. Kris Emery says:

    Realising how much of a difference I was making in my clients lives was a huge one for me in 2014 too, Trudy! I really feel like I’ve hit the momentum spot. Now all there is to come is to feel the energy!

    • Trudy says:

      The NRG will come Kris….. it is still the New Year…. AND Monday! Take care of yourself so that you can take care of others 🙂

  3. Amanda says:

    Awesome article Trudy! So inspiring to hear of your journey. Gives me hope that I too can turn my fear of putting myself out there into action, focus and success ❤️

  4. Sylvia Chierchia says:

    Thanks for another great post Trudy! Yes, I want to help people so thank you for the reframe 🙂

  5. katie says:

    This is great, Trudy. And it sounds just like me – it took me so long to get my website out there, it was ridiculous really. Now it’s up, I’m really pleased, but I still don’t enjoy putting myself out there in the public limelight with things. It’s the introvert in me, so I’m aware I need to gently push myself out of my comfort zone and be BRAVE (which I’m going to do this year) as well as remaining balanced and true to myself. The words “follow your own path” keep coming to me, right now. Thank you for writing and sharing. x

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