That is what happened to me.
Part of my life was devoted to my sister. To talking to her, to listening to her, to knowing that she was ok. AND to the commitment to seeing her twice a week. It was a great routine and it was significant to her and to me.
So when your routine is removed or altered – WHO ARE YOU?
When part of the purpose of your life is removed or altered – WHAT DO YOU DO?
When you are known for “pushing” and “Getting Sh1t Done” – HOW DO YOU GO FORWARD?
It was freakin’ hard. It has been a 10 month journey.
In some ways it has been epic and in some ways it has been debilitating.
I have had to rebuild myself and my life with a different routine. And as I started rebuilding, I started working with the MOST AMAZING clients! They seemed to come out of nowhere. As they say,
“when the student is ready, the teacher arrives – and when the teacher is ready the student arrives.”
This went both ways for me. I was the student that needed to listen to all the lessons that my clients were freely giving (it is always great reflection!), and I am the teacher of busting through procrastination and finding your goals, breaking them down and achieving them (with love and kindness!).
So, I have worked, on myself, on self-care, on rebuilding, on finding what is right for me. It has been an amazing journey of REALISING what I wanted to do – but more importantly, what I was put here to do for others. And with my sister gone, came the realisation that she was making space for me to offer more. That may sound a bit cray-cray, but it gives me comfort.
So from the feedback from clients and the WANT to be able to help more people, I have created the
which starts on the 20th October.
Part of the reason for me doing this, is that through the grief and the pain of losing my sister, what I DID realise is that my talent and gift is connection, I am a facilitator that can work out what you can’t do or don’t want to do and take it away from you to find a resource that does want to do it. I found this out by doing these things for myself….. I had to literally “coach” myself forward, out of total overwhelm and towards being able to come back to being around people, creating connection and getting back to helping people AS WELL AS helping myself. I had to find the resources that could help me, in my business and in my life – to support, motivate and encourage me (and was told that this is what I had done for others through my business). It was an incredibly humbling, exciting and life-affirming period.
The Lessons that I learned
What my sister taught me is:
- Connection is the most important thing for any aspect of your life. Family, Partners, Friends, Business Friends, Colleagues and Acquaintances.
- Laughter is the best medicine – and we laughed all the time. Laughter is also a great deflector and mask for what could be going on (poor Robin Williams, that knocked the wind out of my sails too!)
- Do what you can – she was so restricted in what she could do in her world, but what she could do, she did – I am incredibly proud of everything that she gave.
So if you live your life by those 3 principles – Connection – Laughter – Do what you can, and you need some help, encouragement, motivation, support to move out of your own way and achieve what you were put here to achieve, contact me to see if we can work together.